How to make yourself happy forever

Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful- John Wooden

 

Thinking is wisdom, source of right path. How will we get wisdom if our source is wrong? Do we accept our thinking is ridiculous? No, we are never wrong.

 

We are the group of I. We are divided because I am divided. I am divided because every I have own self-interest. I fight for the identity. “I am’’ is the most selfish word. It is more selfish than the word selfish. I am the ego. Ego is a disease, epidemic. It creates jealousy, envy, anger, misery. I want to travel around the world, I want own yacht, I want gorgeous wife n.. n..  infinite desires.

 

“I am” is  the core of the problem. It is egoist, arrogant, self-obsessed. Whenever I feel his/her dream is shaking. I get into deep depression and ready to take any steps to fulfil his desires. Overloaded desires make I’s life mundane. It creates insecurity, frustration, anger, envy. The word “I” have held us so firmly that we start burning into our own thoughts. We even forget to take care of our health.

 

Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power- William James

A twelve year poor boy who lost his Mom at his birth was living in a small village with his father. In that village there was a big crisis of water and people were travelling four km to get water from a river. Every morning before going to farming his father was waking him up and sending to bring the water from the river with other villagers. In that small group of people all were older to that boy. They were making fun of him by saying your father chooses to make easy work and sending you in this scorching sun for filling up water. Everyday listening to the same story  kid got angry and next morning said to his father, he wouldn’t not go to bring water. Father smiled and said let’s exchange the work.

 

The kid became happy and started to go for farming. Here other farmers started saying, your father is selfish, sending you whole day for farming and chooses an easier job for him. Next evening going back to home, the son said to his father, he would go with him wherever he goes to work. Father smiled with his twinkling eyes and turned agree. Now they started going back to work together. Seeing both of them together villagers started laughing at them and saying both of you are lazy. If one person can do this work alone why both of you are wasting your time.

 

The kid got perturbed and asked his father what’s the problem with these people. I have been following their advice and changed my work, but still they are laughing at us. The father said it’s not their problem, it’s your problem. We just start believing what we perceive from others rather than applying our own mind. We wander to get recognition from others. In the way of wearing identity, we lose wisdom.  

 

We belief on others and keep ourselves in self doubt. So the moot point is staying in this environment. How can we remain happy?      

The solution is not ready made to get over this. Happiness is inside us. We need to recognize it.

 Drop four things from your life immediately to remain happy. 

1. Repenting about the past 
2. Thinking about the future 
3. Staying with Negative people
4. Comparing yourself with others

 

We all are unique. We have different family backgrounds, financial situation. So stop comparing yourself with others and stop taking advice from negative people. Stay with positive people. Enjoying with the positive people in your life helps you put your problems in perspective.

 

Talking with a trusted friend about your feelings will help you identify your needs. Life is a game and you are a player. If you want to emerge as a winner you have to give hundred percent. It demands concentration, skill and strong zeal. Present makes the future. If you keep busy in calculating future. It affects your present work.

 

If you are the person who are unable to get over the past, do your best to identify what you need now. Every time your mind drags you to the past and future, question yourself what you need in the present. Putting your attention on your present moment helps you to get over the uncalled thinking.

 

When thinking  stresses you, put your thought process to something more pleasant, like your passion for your hobby. Everyday  you should spend some time in nature, greenery. Reading good books, listening music are also a good option to get out of tension. Past is like wearing clothes that never fit. It is the time to take them off.

The changes don’t happen on a night but we may get the smell of changes, once we start taking positive steps towards it. 

 

How much money do you need to earn to be happy

Let’s move and buy happiness wherever it is available. No matter how long we have to go. We are ready to travel. No matter how much money do we need. We will collect to be happy.

We wish we could do that!!!

Happiness is a feeling. It’s intangible, which can’t be purchased and exchanged with tangible products. Our minds are habituated to stay in negativity. Our materialistic desire is infinite. The biggest problem is comparison. We compare our financial position with our relatives, friends, and neighbours.

Here is the problem… . Stop comparing yourself with others. If you compare your financial position then why not compare love, affection, kindness, generosity, humbleness.

Our life is moving around tangible and intangible products. Home, car, gazettes; all are tangible goods which can be bought or sold. Intangible products are blessings, wisdom, knowledge, education, happiness. We can feel it, but can’t be sold and purchased.

But our complication is that we give priority to the tangible goods and always think, it makes us happy. We need to change the view. Give priority to the intangible products. Count your days on blessings, not money. Humanity is invaluable, it comes first.

We have to spread love and affection, give more and expect less. Real happiness and blessings come from our good deeds. We have been listening same thoughts in church, temple or mosque but forget it. We need to plunge into this thought.

 

……How do we describe: Will you have a good day or a bad day?

 

If we get a gift, salary hike, promotion. We think it is a good day. Another way, if our holiday leaves don’t get approved. We don’t get a job promotion. Suddenly we get unwell. Then we correlate all these incidents as a bad day. Here our calculation of good and bad days is incorrect.

We should count how many blessings we got today. With how many people we shared good words. Count your generosity and calculate your day with good works, not earnings. Slowly, you understand how your perspective on life is changing.

 

God has nothing to do with money. We have to make our life count for God by good or bad karma. When people die; we discuss their friendly behaviour, humorous nature, soft spoken words. We acknowledge them good due to their intangible services not because they were rich.

We are used to say, if we have had more money, we could be worry-free. Do we get a bigger smile on the face of rich people who travels in a big car, having a big farm house. Not at all, reach people is having more tension, depression, sleepless nights than poor.

 

……….. The more you chase the money, the more tension you get. Whoever loves money never has enough.  

It is our illusion that materialistic stuff can bring smile on our face. The only slogan of happiness is live life to its fullest. Enjoy, laugh, and dance at this current moment. The past is gone, and the future is the product of our present thinking and actions. The only time that exists is now, the present moment and it makes the root of the future. Keep blind faith in good karma, follow the path of goodwill. Live your life, like it is the last moment.

 

Life is uncertain and it may end anytime without giving any pre-information. In this uncertainty, you should not lose the charm of living life every moment. What is happening good or bad feel it, flow with it and enjoy. The need can be fulfilled, but greed never ends.

Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one. –Benjamin Franklin