How to get over emotional attachment

Lurking voice was saying, Today you are late, so no empty chair for you dear, even no empty space for keeping the laptop. I whispered, heavy traffic made me late. Oh, don’t lie you woke up late, so arrived late. If you know all the secrets, then stop asking, angrily I replied.

I looked askance at John and said please let me adjust at your desk. And  without waiting his approval kept laptop there and called my office boy Fred. Where is your chair, please get me. Just then Fred returned, a mile wide smirk on his face, a chair held in his hand. Someone clicked my picture and saying, he would upload it on social media.

Suddenly Peter switched off the AC. I yelled who the hell is doing this, I am terribly exhausted, sweating please turn it on. I am sneezing, coughing,  let it off Peter said. John dragged the curtain of the window, get the fresh air why you guys are fighting over trivial issues. OK, let it open saying I brought out my laptop. Oh battery is dying, I forgot to carry the charger. Sheryl just plugged out her charger, handed over to me. I smirked  Wiping the sweat off my forehead.

 

I started checking mails. In no time Mike came to me, have you cigarette bro? Carrying nostalgic smile I said yeah, but wait ten minutes, come with you. Rolling the whiff of puff with Mike I was feeling at ease.

 

Coffee, shaky voice changed the wave of brain.

Oh, I felt getting up from sweet dreams. Today we are the only four people, Fred’s grieved voice was realizing that the time has gone too far. Now I have to stay with this loneliness, tears were rolling down my cheeks.

 

I joined this start-up company one and half years before where we thirty guys were working together. Initially I was a bit apprehensive to join this company, but after joining I felt myself highly blessed working with young energetic groups. We left no stone unturned to make it successful and the positive results started coming within six months of inception.

After one year, the company hired three top level employees and within a few weeks plethora of new people joined in decision-making groups. And slowly old employees started getting calls for leaving the organization. Many colleagues voluntarily left and a time come, when we four people were remaining from old groups. Our all founding members were feeling humiliated.

 

Were we expecting this reward?

 

It was like  parents who put everything at stake to make their children successful, but after achieving success kids turned a blind eye. Being  parents, you feel tormented, find no one to share with. Because your closest person has left you alone.

But what is the solution?

How to get over emotional attachment

 

Late into the night getting back to home … I realized, why we take the things personally. Every second changes are taking place as the human level or technology level.Weather, climate, even our face is changing every second. So why not surroundings. It will change. We can cry, complain but it has to happen.

 

We might try accepting the reality and finding the goodness in the present, rather than comparing our present life to ideal life and finding it wanting    

It’s only difficult when we attach too tightly to past, and then we can become unhappy with the present.  Once we do this, and accept what’s in front of us, we reach a place of mental peace.

Emotional attachment is one of the most common issues we all are facing, you are not alone in this. Don’t control your emotions, let yourself cry if grief rises up within you. Not being attached brings relaxation and ease.

 

Mindfulness is the best route to cope up with emotional pain. It gets your mind, spiritual energy. But you need to do it regularly from 10 mints to 30 mints. I personally experienced the amazing benefits of mindfulness. This spiritual power helps me to get over depression, anger, anxiety, and impatience. It makes you aware how mind reacts, processes or creates different thoughts at different moments.    

 

Processing the mind in a different way is not easy, even I am not perfect but if we could try slowly without haste. We can  get over the pain soon

 

To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving– Max Beerbohm